Herpes is a sexually transmitted disease. Many dating couples have broken up in the fear of contracting the disease from their partners. Nevertheless, there is a stigma with the illness that has instilled fear in people. Well, as much as it is transmitted via sex, it is not as deadly as people label it to be. It is important that you have your facts straight on herpes and differentiate the truth from myths.
For most couples, they are not comfortable discussing issues about sexually transmitted diseases let alone their sexual life. Considering the social shame that is set with herpes, not many can open up about having herpes. This is because it can crush your inner confidence as people view it as a plague and many are not ready to accept your condition. So what are these misconceptions people have about herpes? And what are the actual facts?
#1: People with herpes must have an outbreak.
No, if you have herpes, it is not a must you have an outbreak. As a matter of fact, you may have been living with herpes without realizing it. The numbers show that 87.4% of people with herpes don’t even know they have it. In short, identifying a person with herpes is not something you can do easily. Additionally, it is not obvious that you have herpes and show the symptoms most people are afraid of.
#2: Herpes is only transmitted if you have an outbreak.
This is a false understanding of herpes. Even if you do not demonstrate signs of infection, it does not mean you cannot transfer it to your partner. This is based on the fact that most people have herpes and they do not know it. Herpes can be transmitted through kissing or blood contact and even skin contact. And of course through sexual intercourse.
#3: Cold sores are different from herpes.
Herpes as earlier mentioned is a sexually transmitted disease. But, what causes it? It is caused by either the herpes simplex type 1 virus or the type 2 virus. This means you can get infected with herpes from the virus itself or cold sores. It can be contracted through body contact as a result of virus shedding from the infected person. So, even with cold sores, you might be suffering from herpes, but, you do not know it.
#4: Only certain people can get herpes.
That is your wishful thinking. Most people have the idea that if you go for regular STD checkups and clean, you cannot contract herpes. The truth is that, you may have herpes, but it has not yet manifested itself. It takes approximately two weeks to exhibit itself, so, you may test negative for herpes today. But, in two weeks, you might test positive. As for hygiene, it does not matter for herpes transmission. Provided you are sexually active; you are prone to getting infected if your partner has the disease.
#5: You cannot have children if you have herpes.
If you are worried that you will not conceive in the future because you have herpes. Relax! You can have all the children you want, and they will not have herpes. It is important to know that herpes does not interfere with your fertility and you can get pregnant like other women. In addition to that, your babies will not contract the disease as there are ways to carry out a safe delivery. However, you might experience some issues such as premature births and miscarriages. Take care of yourself and your baby when you are pregnant.
#6: If your partner has herpes, then he / she must have cheated.
It is not always the case. As a matter of fact, you may be the one who infected them. The thing is that if you are involved with more than one person for sometime, the accusations are not valid. This is because your partner or you might have collected the virus from them. Needless say, it does not show immediately or even at all. However, if you have been together for a while, then the accusations may hold.
So, anyone can get herpes. All it needs is one partner with the virus, and it is transmitted there and then. But, you are not the only one who has the disease. There are thousands of people out there with herpes, and you cannot even tell. Furthermore, it does not change your life in any way, and you have to embrace it. Having herpes is not the end of the world, and you can lead a normal life.