Have you ever found yourself in a scenario where your sexual partner wears a condom before sex, but in the end, you seem to notice that the condom wasn't used during the love making? Let’s take a wild guess, several persons have been there, and it didn’t go down well with most of them. Often, this nonconsensual condom removal is referred to as ‘stealthing’ and most women see it as a violation of autonomy and dignity. Then again, stealthing is likely to get STIs, as it exposes the relationship to a high risk of infection by a partner.
Get this: Stealthing is not okay because it is somewhat a sexual assault, it is deceptive and violates the principle of consent. Sometimes, stealthing entails an intentional damaging of the condom during intercourse, and in other cases, it may involve the removal of the condom during intercourse. Yes, it is true! Stealthing can be done by the male of female partner; either person can be the deceptive one and not only the male. Women who wish to be pregnant for a man in a nonconsensual manner are often guilty of this act – this means that anyone can stealth. One who plans on achieving such deceptive act may suggest that the partner should discard the use of lubricant or resort to poking holes into the condom. A survey reveals that this is a popular act and is common among sexually active people. To top it off, most of the persons that were victimized in this said that they never knew until they felt the penetration or ejaculation, while others realized only when their partner told them.
While stealthing may be a common act among some people, the risk that follows is never too small to be neglected. Victims of stealthing are often perturbed about the possible risks that are involved, they may be exposed to the risk of pregnancy and STDs such as herpes, HIV, Gonorrhea, and Chlamydia. By and large, it doesn’t only happen in casual encounters, relationships, and few cases marriages, this comes with a deep feeling of betrayal. It may be easy to accept the fact that you are betrayed in a casual encounter than when your partner betrays you, and that is what people who are in a relationship yet their partner does the stealthing feels like.
Think about it this way: Stealthing is arguably a chance to another STIs when you are already living with an STD. When you live with an STI, perhaps herpes and you contract HIV due to your partner’s non-consensual removal or damage of condom, you will realize how hard it may be to cope with two different STDs. While some persons do the stealthing for pregnancy purpose, others engage in this act to successfully transmit STI to their partner, and this is not right. 34 states in the US are ready to arrest people who willfully infect people with HIV by non-disclosure of their status. Stealthing is a deceptive and assaultive act, with an array of bad outcomes ranging from transmission of STIs to unwanted pregnancy, betrayal, heartbreak, cheating, lies and a lot of consequences that follow, it is not hard to see the reason why people who engage in such act should desist from it.
Although so many victims of this act agree that it is a violation and assault to a large degree, they hardly take it as rape. However, some think that proper sanction should be meted out to people who perpetrate such act because they expose people’s health to a high risk as well their lives.
On the face of it, stealthing is no less of a risk that let you catch STDs, bringing discord in a relationship and sometimes kills trust. However, if you fall a victim of such circumstance, you should be bent on seeking medical attention despite how well you know your sexual partner. It is medically advisable to quickly opt for a complete STI assessment and evaluation because your health is at risk. Then again, it may be wise to take presumptive STI treatment as well a pregnancy test in the case of women. Stealthing is an unfair act that should stop because it places a burden on STI and leave the person involved running a high health risk.